I wrote this on my Facebook page on March 22, 2013 and decided to share it on here.
This is NOT a Burger King World!!! Those of you that are old enough may remember the BK commercial with the jingle “Have it your way, have it your way… hold the… pickles, hold the lettuce, special orders don’t upset us……” Burger King…please don’t sue me…this is FREE advertising!
Yesterday I came VERY close to getting to share a life experience lesson with some young women at work but then I was relieved by another person so I could resume my usual morning duties. So many people think that in order for life to be “good” or “fair” that they have to have things their way. That is so wrong! If we always got things our way, we would never grow and develop. We would never learn how to deal with adversity and overcome obstacles.
I have 60 years of life experiences to share with others and I have learned so much and will continue to learn and grow until I take my last breath on this earth. I would never have learned what I now know and grown into who I am now had I always gotten things MY way!
My least favorite subject is Math and if I had been able to have it my way, I never would have had to take it in school. My apologies to Mr. O (Math teacher at PACE) if he is reading this! When I was in 7th grade, a math teacher handed back our graded tests so we could go over them in class. While we were going over them, two of my answers that were correct were marked as incorrect. When I showed the teacher, she accused me of changing the answers in front of the whole class. It hurt me deeply because I knew and God knew that I had NOT changed the answers and I had been falsely accused. I could have let that destroy me and held anger and bitterness against that teacher but I decided not to do that. A couple of years later, I heard that the teacher’s husband had passed away and I had compassion on her and prayed that the Lord would help her through that and comfort her. I don’t know about what happened with her but I grew because of that whole situation.
I have had to do many things in my life that I did not like or enjoy. When I took Algebra in 8th or 9th grade, I had a great teacher (Mr. Kilroy) and I was making A’s in Algebra! WOW…he WAS a GREAT teacher! One day they came in and said that the class was being split and half of us were going into a new class with a new teacher. I had to leave his class. The new teacher was nice and she definitely knew her stuff but even though some people are very smart, they should not teach because they do not know how to communicate what they know to others. Needless to say, I never saw any A’s again for that class! Fast forward to 27 years after I graduated from High School and am returning to school at CFCC (now CF). I had to take the dreaded Algebra…my nightmare! If I had been able to have it MY way…there is NO way I would have taken Algebra (or any math class for that matter)! However, lots of math stood between me and an AA degree so I sucked it up and thanks to a GREAT math teacher, I got through Algebra and all of my other math classes (even made A’s)! Taking those classes was helpful and needful for me even though I would not have chosen to take them had I been able to “have it my way.” After getting my AA degree in 1999, I was not in college again until 2010 when I started going to UCF to get my BS degree and …you guessed it…more math! This time it was the dreaded Statistics (two Statistics classes)! I had heard nightmare stories about Statistics but I made it though the classes with A’s even though I would NOT have chosen to take those classes if it was MY choice. Doing things in life that we don’t necessarily want to do, helps us learn to overcome adversity, builds character in us, and helps us grow and develop.
So many of us want to have it our way but it is needful for us to go through some life experiences that push us to learn and experience new things which will help us grow into who and what we need to become. The quicker we learn and yield to that, the better it will be for us! Today, whatever life hands you, learn from it and you will grow!
Live, learn and grow!