This is NOT a Burger King World!

I wrote this on my Facebook page on March 22, 2013 and decided to share it on here.

This is NOT a Burger King World!!! Those of you that are old enough may remember the BK commercial with the jingle “Have it your way, have it your way… hold the pickles, hold the lettuce, special orders don’t upset us……” Burger King…please don’t sue me…this is FREE advertising!
Yesterday I came VERY close to getting to share a life experience lesson with some young women at work but then I was relieved by another person so I could resume my usual morning duties. So many people think that in order for life to be “good” or “fair” that they have to have things their way. That is so wrong! If we always got things our way, we would never grow and develop. We would never learn how to deal with adversity and overcome obstacles.
I have 60 years of life experiences to share with others and I have learned so much and will continue to learn and grow until I take my last breath on this earth. I would never have learned what I now know and grown into who I am now had I always gotten things MY way!
My least favorite subject is Math and if I had been able to have it my way, I never would have had to take it in school. My apologies to Mr. O (Math teacher at PACE) if he is reading this! When I was in 7th grade, a math teacher handed back our graded tests so we could go over them in class. While we were going over them, two of my answers that were correct were marked as incorrect. When I showed the teacher, she accused me of changing the answers in front of the whole class. It hurt me deeply because I knew and God knew that I had NOT changed the answers and I had been falsely accused. I could have let that destroy me and held anger and bitterness against that teacher but I decided not to do that. A couple of years later, I heard that the teacher’s husband had passed away and I had compassion on her and prayed that the Lord would help her through that and comfort her. I don’t know about what happened with her but I grew because of that whole situation.
I have had to do many things in my life that I did not like or enjoy. When I took Algebra in 8th or 9th grade, I had a great teacher (Mr. Kilroy) and I was making A’s in Algebra! WOW…he WAS a GREAT teacher! One day they came in and said that the class was being split and half of us were going into a new class with a new teacher. I had to leave his class. The new teacher was nice and she definitely knew her stuff but even though some people are very smart, they should not teach because they do not know how to communicate what they know to others. Needless to say, I never saw any A’s again for that class! Fast forward to 27 years after I graduated from High School and am returning to school at CFCC (now CF). I had to take the dreaded Algebra…my nightmare! If I had been able to have it MY way…there is NO way I would have taken Algebra (or any math class for that matter)! However, lots of math stood between me and an AA degree so I sucked it up and thanks to a GREAT math teacher, I got through Algebra and all of my other math classes (even made A’s)! Taking those classes was helpful and needful for me even though I would not have chosen to take them had I been able to “have it my way.” After getting my AA degree in 1999, I was not in college again until 2010 when I started going to UCF to get my BS degree and …you guessed it…more math! This time it was the dreaded Statistics (two Statistics classes)! I had heard nightmare stories about Statistics but I made it though the classes with A’s even though I would NOT have chosen to take those classes if it was MY choice. Doing things in life that we don’t necessarily want to do, helps us learn to overcome adversity, builds character in us, and helps us grow and develop.
So many of us want to have it our way but it is needful for us to go through some life experiences that push us to learn and experience new things which will help us grow into who and what we need to become. The quicker we learn and yield to that, the better it will be for us! Today, whatever life hands you, learn from it and you will grow!

Live, learn and grow!

Patricia Styers



I wrote this back in 2013 and posted it on my Facebook page.  I thought I would share it on here also. 

OREO Cookie!!! Now that I have your attention…there are three chapters in the Bible that are like an OREO Cookie. They are I Corinthians 12, 13, & 14. Chapters 12 and 14 are about gifts that God gives us to use in order to bless others. The gifts are important and available to us when and as GOD decides. He gives the gifts as HE wills. However, even if we had ALL the gifts and used them all the time, they would mean NOTHING without what chapter 13 talks about…LOVE! Love is the cream that holds the two cookies together! Have you ever seen people pull off one of the cookies to get to the cream? The cream is the MOST important part because it would not be an OREO without the cream. It would just be a plain chocolate cookie! No matter how much you “do” for the Lord and for others, if what you do is not done “in love” it means NOTHING! When you ask your child to do something, they can disobey and not do it at all, obey but do it begrudgingly, or they can do it out of love with an obedient heart. Which would you, as their parent, prefer? 

Are we doing everything from a joyful heart of love? If not, whatever we are doing is just meaningless actions that have no value! Let’s make sure that whatever we do is done in love!

Here is I Corinthians 13:
Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging cymbal. 2 And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned,[a] but have not love, it profits me nothing.
4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

8 Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part. 10 But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away.

11 When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. 12 For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known.

13 And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.

Have a blessed day and remember to do everything in love!

Patricia Styers


I was in a meeting years ago and a sister in the Lord shared about a post she put on FB and she used the word “recovering.” Then a brother in the Lord shared about how when Jesus died for our sins, we were covered again (re-covered). The blood that Jesus shed on the cross has covered our sins and all we have to do is accept Him and what He has done for us. Someone said it is like having insurance then my sister in the Lord said that she was not FULLY covered (with insurance) and the Pastor mentioned it was conditional. So, here is where the Lord started expanding on what was being said and putting things in my heart. God’s love for us is UNconditional BUT there are conditions to the coverage that we have. We either CHOOSE to be under God’s covering or be out from under it. In Psalm 91:1, it says that “He that dwelleth in the secret place of the most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty.” A different version (NIV) says “Whoever dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty.” To have FULL coverage, we need to dwell (live and stay) under the shelter of the Lord. Have we accepted the coverage that the Lord has given us through His Son Jesus? Are we dwelling in His presence? Are we under that coverage or do we just have partial coverage? If you read the entire chapter (Psalm 91), you will read about the benefits of the coverage that the Lord offers us. It is the BEST policy EVER!

There is a song that I love. The words are: I am covered over with the robe of righteousness that Jesus gives to me, I am covered over with the precious blood of Jesus that He shed for me. Oh, what joy it is to know my heavenly Father loves me so and gives to me, my Jesus. When He looks at me, He sees not what I used to be but He sees Jesus.

Joy & Laughter

This morning on FB, it brought up something that I wrote and posted on there in 2013.  It is still just as relevant today as it was when I wrote it. I have added a little more to it. I feel that this message is vital to all of us.

A friend posted on her FB page that she laughed the hardest she ever had in her life. That is awesome because laughter is good for us. It has been proven that laughter releases endorphins that have very positive effects on our bodies. It feels so good to laugh. There is strength in laughter. Nehemiah 8:10 says “the joy of the LORD is your strength.”  Proverbs 17:22 says “A merry heart doeth good like a medicine: but a broken spirit drieth the bones.”

I heard about a lady who had terminal cancer and she heard this scripture and made a decision to laugh in the face of her adversity. Not only did her life change from despair to joy, but she was healed of the cancer! This was a documented healing. There IS power in joy and laughter. Don’t feel like laughing? I am sure she didn’t at first either!
If you are not feeling joy right now, there is hope for you. In Psalm 30:5 it says “weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.”

Jesus came “To appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the LORD, that he might be glorified” (Isaiah 61:3).

Here is how to get joy… “In Your presence is fullness of joy; At Your right hand are pleasures forevermore” (Psalm 16:11).  May all of you experience joy and laughter today! Spend time in the presence of the Lord.

If joy and laughter are not allowed to flow, the Spirit of the Lord is quenched because joy is part of the nature of God and it is one of the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23).  If you don’t FEEL like laughing, do it anyway! If you have to force it and it feels uncomfortable and fake at first, do it anyway! Even if you just say “ha, ha, ha” and it does not feel like real laughter, do it anyway! The same thing goes for smiling.  You have control over your face and even the very act of smiling will brighten the day of others and you also will reap the rewards! Make it a point to laugh and smile today and see how it lifts your mood and also helps others!



Religion or Relationship

Are you a professing Christian? If you are, ask yourself this question “Do I have religion or do I have a relationship with the Lord?”

If you have a good and healthy relationship with a spouse, what things make that relationship good?  What if your spouse was married to you but never spent time with you or expressed love to you? What if they ignored you except for just one or two hours a week? Would you feel that you had a real and good relationship? What if you loved your spouse but they did not love you? It is possible to be married but not have a relationship. It is possible to be married and not experience the love of your spouse.

Being a Christian is about having a relationship with the Lord. It is not just about being loved by God but it is also about showing your love to Him. God’s love is constant and never fails. Our love for the Lord should also be constant and we need to stay in relationship with Him all of the time. If we just go through the motions and give Him one or two hours a week by attending “church” then we are being religious and don’t have a true relationship!

Religion is like a marriage without love!

Patricia Styers


Yesterday I asked readers to give me a title for a blog and I would write on it. A friend gave me the word “PACE” so here I go.

The first thing that I think of when I see the word PACE is an awesome organization that I had the opportunity to work with while doing an internship.  The name of the organization is PACE Center for Girls and the work that they do is outstanding. It was an awesome opportunity to work with some great co-workers and meet some very talented and gifted young women.  I had the pleasure of being able to interact with the girls on a daily basis during the school week. One of the greatest experiences was organizing a talent show that the young ladies did. I was so impressed by all of the talent that they displayed and it was a day that I will never forget. If you are looking for a great organization to support with either time or money,  I would highly recommend them. Here is the link to check them out:

The word “pace” also reminded me of the term “set the pace” and that means to lead the way in doing or achieving something. Your pace is your manner of walking or running. If you are a runner or walker, you understand the importance of “pace” especially if you are a competitive runner.  If you are a competitive runner, you want to set the pace so that others will have to run faster to be able to catch up with you but your goal is to keep up the pace or even pick up the pace so that you are the one who finishes first.

If you are a leader, you lead by example and go before to set the pace for others to follow. If you are a true leader, you enjoy seeing others pick up their pace and the best thing that can happen is to be outdone by those whom you were leading because that means that you have been a great example and have taught them well.  The greatest compliment a leader can have is to have a person or people whom they have led exceed what they have done. If you are a good parent, you want your children to succeed and excel to the point of doing even better than what you have done in your life. That is why we try to teach our children about our experiences so they can learn and possibly avoid some of the pitfalls we have experienced. They do not always listen but we share with them anyway in order to help them.

I have seen some great leaders and I have seen some not-so-great leaders. Some are threatened by the success of others and that is sad. King Saul in the Bible was one of those.  He loved David until he became jealous and then he wanted to kill David and tried many times. Read 1 Samuel 18 and keep reading past that to see the whole story.

The question for all of us is…

Are we setting the pace and leading by example so that others will learn, pick up the pace and finish well?


Patricia Styers