I have had this on my heart for almost a year now and God recently spoke to me again in the last week or so and I feel that He wants me to share it now. This is a very important message that I believe everybody needs to hear because I have seen so much heartache and destruction that could have been prevented. I pray that we will all examine our hearts as we read this so that we can walk in love and victory in our lives.
It would be impossible to live in this world without getting hurt or offended by people! I can guarantee that everyone who is old enough to read this has been hurt and offended. The Bible tells us that “offenses will come” but it is how we handle them that is what matters. In the past, I blogged about “Killers” (things that can kill us spiritually). There were five that I named. They are unforgiveness, bitterness, resentment, anger and hatred. If we hold unto those things, they will destroy us! When we are offended, if we don’t turn it over to God and forgive, we can open the door to a spirit of offense. I have seen the spirit of offense get in and destroy individual lives, friendships, families and even churches if it is not dealt with quickly. Proverbs 19:11 says: A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense. If we hang on to an offense, it can open the door to a spirit of offense. Once the spirit of offense has a place in your life, you will find that you are offended VERY often! Satan is a liar and deceiver and he comes to kill, steal and destroy. He has NO mercy and will plant things in your mind where there really were no offenses but you perceived those things as though they were REAL offenses and have shut people out of your life because of it. Many times the people who you shut out are left scratching their heads and wondering why you have walked away. I have someone that I love deeply that has walked away from her whole family and me as well. I have racked my brain trying to figure out why and prayed about this, asking God what I could have possibly done to offend her. She will not answer my voicemails or letters and I hate that we no longer have a relationship. However, there is no opportunity to talk to her because she has isolated herself because of perceived offenses. She has gone through years of not being in touch with her family and it is so sad. Her family loves her and does not understand.
I am not saying that there are not real offenses BUT if we don’t deal with them correctly and quickly, the spirit of offense has an open door to come marching in and settle in until we are isolated, families are split and even churches are destroyed. Turn any offenses over to the Lord, forgive and don’t open the door to that spirit!